The Change I Want To Make

Love and respect, no more the gender violence and sexual abuse  

 

Just as a mother would protect her child with her life, even so let one cultivate a boundless love towards all beings – Buddha

Asian country, dominated by old tradition society gender violence still exists. I belong to country Nepal, living in a male dominated society where every day wife is dominated by her husband, sister by brother and mother by father. Far away, my society is transforming from tradition to modern era of 21^st century , every day an average of more than three rapes are reported, nobody know how many are not reported, Two times? Five times? Ten times? Or more a number? Rather cultivating love, people cultivate hate and sin, creating no purity at all. Though red color blood flow through body an impure and selfish world exist where everyone’s bound by different perception and interpretation. And this is the fact where perception and interpretation interact each other to generate violence, assault and abuse.

       Expressing my story, I live in a country side where harsh society exists. My mother getting married at the age of 13. How painful the situation it would be at the age of playing, learning and enjoying with friends she had to take all the burden of house in her head? Despite having copy and pen in her hand there were forest wood and kitchen utensils. She had to serve all day to her husband, mother in law and daughter. My society lies in a traditional concept, that male should be head of family. How difficult for me to say, my pregnant mother during her pregnancy and also after parturition wasn’t given full stomach food as she gave birth to three daughters. Diet was far beyond concern. Does it was sin of her or god giving birth to a baby girl? If it was so, why these nature grant birth bearing capacity only to female? What would this world be if male would be pregnant? Does this society system divide for male? Would there be end of violence? Aborting four times, a baby boy was born. My family now seems to be happy family but does my family analyze the negative effect of abortion to health of my mother. No not at all. Because life of girl doesn’t matter here. How cruel the god created creature is? Why doesn’t they realize even male is given birth by female? If female would go below existence, male would surely collapse. In my class often personal dispute and misunderstanding takes place between boy and girl, instead finding faulty my class would probably blame a girl. Later this humiliation, dispute and egoism lead a girl to pay huge consequences. Where ever at a vendor street or a market she would surely get attack by acid in her face by her male friend. Another side country law is in vain. And the next day a girl will be raped. Doesn’t a girl have right to live and breathe freely? Either a three year old baby girl or sixty year old mother is rape. The violence with which a girl is attack and abuse is always shocking. A small body been attached to life saving machine at intensive care unit in hospital. Her family sitting outside desperate with agony crying intermittently. Those who talked to her family ended up crying too. It is because the detail of crime was shocking. The young girl had not only been raped but rapist had inserted piece of wood inside her vagina. She was found rubbish pile day after she was disappeared. The violence with which she was attacked abused eventually shocked nation for a while.

       Changing people perception, ending violence and abuse is not that easy. Does anyone of hundred thinks ending it from your family, society and nation? No, because everyone thinks that is not the matter of their concern. But doesn’t situation that happens to someone else might happen to you next day? There is need of creating purity to our heart, feeling of sisterhood, brotherhood that truly make pure society and nation ending of violence and abuse which would challenge country law.